Hey there, beautiful souls!

Have you ever found yourself saying yes to things you didn’t want to do, just to avoid disappointing someone? Maybe you’ve felt the sting of overextending yourself, juggling everyone else’s needs while neglecting your own. Let me tell you—you’re not alone. People-pleasing is a trap many of us fall into, but here’s the good news: faith in God can set us free.

Let’s explore how leaning into your faith can help you break free from the chains of people-pleasing and start setting boundaries that honor God, yourself, and others.

Why We People-Please

People-pleasing often stems from a desire to feel accepted, loved, or validated. Maybe you grew up hearing, “Be a good girl,” and learned to equate being agreeable with being worthy. Or perhaps you’re afraid of rejection or conflict, so you prioritize others’ needs over your own.

While wanting to be kind and helpful isn’t a bad thing, people-pleasing crosses a line when it:

• Drains your energy.

• Compromises your values.

• Makes you lose sight of who you are in Christ.

Jesus never called us to please people at the expense of our peace or purpose. Galatians 1:10 reminds us: “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Practical Tips to Stop People-Pleasing

Ready to reclaim your freedom? Here are some practical, faith-filled steps you can take:

1. Remember Whose Approval Matters Most

When you’re tempted to say yes just to keep the peace, pause and ask yourself: Will this honor God? Sometimes, seeking validation from people can distract us from living in alignment with His will. Pray for discernment and let God’s Word be your guide.

Pro Tip: Write out affirmations like, “I am already enough in Christ” or “God’s love is unconditional,” and place them where you’ll see them daily.

2. Set Boundaries with Grace

Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about protecting your time, energy, and well-being so you can show up fully where it matters most. Jesus Himself set boundaries—He often withdrew from crowds to rest and pray (Luke 5:16). You can do the same!

Action Step: Practice saying “No” kindly but firmly. For example:

• “I’m honored you thought of me, but I can’t commit to that right now.”

• “Let me pray about it and get back to you.”

3. Let Go of the Fear of Disappointment

Here’s the truth: you can’t please everyone, and that’s okay. Trying to do so often leads to burnout and resentment. Trust that God will give you the strength to handle any pushback or disappointment.

Reflection Question: What’s the worst that could happen if someone’s upset with your boundary? Chances are, you’ll survive—and thrive.

4. Prioritize Your God-Given Purpose

When you’re clear on your calling, it’s easier to say no to distractions. Spend time in prayer and scripture to understand what God is asking of you in this season of your life.

Journaling Prompt: Write down your top three priorities right now. Are your actions aligned with them? If not, what needs to change?

5. Lean on Community

Surround yourself with people who uplift you and respect your boundaries. Share your journey with trusted friends, a life coach, or a mentor who can hold you accountable.

Encouragement: Join a small group or community where you can grow in faith and confidence. It’s easier to stay strong when you’re not walking alone.

Faith Over Fear

Breaking free from people-pleasing is a journey, but with God by your side, it’s absolutely possible. As you grow in faith, you’ll find the courage to set healthy boundaries and live authentically. Remember, your worth isn’t tied to how much you do for others or how many people approve of you. Your worth is found in Christ alone.

Let’s commit to living for an audience of One, embracing His peace, and walking boldly in our God-given purpose. You’ve got this!

With love and encouragement, Coach Dee